Consultation

Fear.
All fears are coming from a common source. When we deal only with the technical aspect of fear, we can get rid of that specific technical condition only. As an example: fear of water can be solved by learning how to swim. Then you are no longer fearing water, but this will not rid you from the state of  fear.  Another fear will pop up. If we only deal with fear technically, we don’t solve what creates fear in  us. Come dive into your inner world and see what constitutes fear and dissolve it..

Anxiety.
I see that many people are mistaking anxiety and fear. It is not set the same way. I had the chance to have both and found a way to clear them of my personal atmosphere. Anxiety is about what will happen. We think about the future. Since it is not right now in the present, we can’t act or make change in the present time. Instead we make up scenarios that in my case rarely happened the way I thought anyways. Anxiety is an inner state. All makes you anxious. Anything can trigger it. There is something that supports that inner state. Come and see what it is. Come and see how to dismantle the mechanic of anxiety. Even though it is emotional or mental, what leads to anxiety is using the same ways over and over again. When we understand what it is, anxiety is replaced with joy and faith. You will understand that the future  is out of your hands and deal with it when time comes. You will see that what is coming is  not according to your negative vision that is based on ideas.  Free yourself from any expectation of how things should be. As I said, in my life, it never turned out the way I expected. So I let go and faith emerged. Faith is not a way to reassure yourself, it goes deeper and heals. It has nothing to do with reassurance. In anxiety issues, reassurance is like putting out a fire with gasoline. We have to go deeper and understand  what is actually the root of anxiety.  Come and see for yourself.

Violence issues.
What is the heart of violence? You reach the crossroad your violent ways. You will have to  change these ways. Why are you attached to these demeanours? There is an illusion of power. A desire to control. Have it your way for once! Controlling a situation to not be disappointed again, to make you feel devalued again…..  Come to a session, you will be very surprised of what will be revealed to you. The act of violence is not really something that brings sympathy towards yourself. It is despised and puts everyone in an uncomfortable or dangerous position. For yourself to… People don't want to be your target. Everyone is only seeing the actions and not the suffering. The more you keep this behaviour the more it poisons your life. Do you really want to keep on doing it? There are numerous layers that lead to this kind of behaviour. Lifting up all these veils will surprise you. To reach that crossroad between your actions and their roots is something that will make you realize why you use that type of behaviour. And dissolve them.

Relationship issues.
Relationships are many times having problems. Nobody really defines relationships the exact same way.  When we use a relationship to complete ourselves, it never works. Power games  become an issue. Power games and relationships are like oil and water; they can't mix. Why are we in that relationship? Where are the power issues coming? It is a power game when we decide how it should be instead of hearing out what he or she has to say? Any confrontation in a relationship is a blatant proof that there is no relationship, only two monologues and no dialogues. There are very easy solutions to any relationship conflict. The problem is: are you willing to do it? Are you mature enough to be in a relationship? Are you open and welcoming your partner or lover?

Difficulty of not saying what we need to say because of peer pressure and politically correctness.
Many people can’t speak their heart. They can speak their mind. They can shout and criticize thinking that what they say is real…When we lash out, we all think that what we say is not important. It is just words, it is just a moment. Everything we do, everything we say or not say has an impact on us and on everybody else that we deal with for that matter. We have to join the heart and the mind together. Honesty is the key. Transparence is the way. It is for us to have a clear and transparent life. Infringe from the opacity of the politically correct or of what is expected of you. The lies and the twisted terms that we use to look good, or to not rattle the snake is really something that has to be addressed in everyone’s life at any time. To rattle the snake for rattling the snake is as bad as not speaking your mind and heart. We are many times using words to say things that are contradictory to our values. A white lie is casting blackness and eventually leads to absolute insipid conversation that we wish not to happen. Breaking up the barrier for our sanity and sanity of humanity is a must.

When you lie or you politically correct your way to avoid problems. When you make it airtight so no one can know really what you think. It puts you in a perfect place where you cannot breathe. A situation into which you disconnect while communicating. Wouldn’t it  be better to live in the open? Deal with the reactions of people and feel totally detached from these reactions. When you speak freely with your heart, it may rustle some feathers at first. It also makes its way to their own heart. Honesty is not speaking and saying everything that comes to mind. Honesty is not a point of view. Honesty is to get to the bottom of what we think, of what is happening, to understand through question and inspiration what is what in each and every party that are communicating together. When doing so, the vibration of honesty is touching their own if they open up to it. They may revise their own position and possibly make changes for themselves that will lead  to a better place: freedom within yourself, transparency, a refreshing breeze that goes through you.

What makes it next to impossible in your mind, is the importance that you give to everyone’s opinions. Know that these politically correct ways are real because we all make them real. We all use this to threaten or put people in a precarious position. It creates real consequences for people who are denouncing how bad and how sick these ways of doing are. Because people don’t want to change their ways, why? You will be surprised… If you do it to express yourself  from the heart and not challenge their politically correct ways, they will not feel that you are attacking them.The whole ground of the relationship may change. You will see their interest, in your point of view.

Peer pressure that forces us to take specific words to be well received has to stop. This has to stop. Come to open up but obviously to know how to deal with the politically correctness as well as the obedience of rules to avoid problems.

Not able  to make changes in my life.
Many times we wish we could make changes in our lives and we don’t know how. The how is never the problem. We have to understand why we resist changes. Why do we have this attachment to our ways, even though it is to our detriment. To make changes at an action level is very simple.  As an example: you were smoking and you wanted to stop. Obviously the action is very simple: “Do not take a cigarette in your hand and do not smoke it”. Facing the situations where you were normally smoking is obviously a challenge for most of the smokers. As I said, if we consider only the action level, it is very easy. We have to understand the impact of the habit. It has a dynamic impact in the way to deal with things. What is the force that pushes a smoker to smoke? What is behind this very action? An action is only the tip of the iceberg. All that we don't see has more impact than the physical action itself. To make changes in our lives we have to see what is behind that habit that we want to change is pretty much the same thing as the smoker’s example. . Not using reconditioning from one habit to another is a must. To force you  not to smoke in forced conditions is as bad as smoking at soul level. You can free yourself only by understanding things essentially.

Dependence.
Why are you depending upon people, a situation, or a job?  Do you feel comfortable with this? This threat is always shadowing your life and basically at the end, the only thing that matters in your eyes is to see if they notice you or not. If they still want you or not. As a disposable that gained survival time one more time.You depend on their attention and acceptance. When you  are in a state of dependence, you don’t want to see yourself as such. Dependance is a matter of you underestimating yourself by yourself. Where does it come from?  Free yourself of this feeling of dependence. It is possible.

Trust issues.
Why do you have trust issues right off the bat? You don’t know about the situation. You don't know about this person. Still, you second guess everything. It makes you reluctant to share in the open. What really is supporting this trust issue? The trust issue is coming from the fact that naturally you trust. When you did so, it didn't turn out so well. Why? The way you see trust is the issue and not trusting per se. In these sessions, you will have a turning point in your way to deal with trust issues. You will redefine trust into its real term and understand why you do not trust people. How you trust has to change. This is the issue.

Fear of rejection.
The fear of rejection comes from one thing: we sell it out and give the person the indication that we are not worthy of attention. Why do you do that to yourself? Where does it come from? You play a scenario that  leads to this inevitable conclusion: rejection. In a strange way, you feel comfortable in this expectation. In fact it never is about being rejected. The structure of rejection has to be understood. Feeling rejected is subjective. From the same situation, some people don't feel rejected but you feel rejected. How can it be that different ? Same situation 2 different reactions. How come you feel rejected when someone stops the relationship and another person living the same thing would feel relieved.  Come and see why…

Abandonment.
Many of us had or have experienced a feeling of abandonment. Feel alone in the world. Having a fear that your lover will abandon you, or life will no longer be good to you. A feeling that deep inside, you don't deserve attention. That is what it is all about. What do you abandon? Always somebody or something that is not worth keeping. A sense of value underlies abandonment. The sense of abandonment is very hard to live. You somehow accept that scenario. Why? Living abandonment is coming from an attachment to an idea that we are not worthy.

It is something that you can change. When someone abandons you, it doesn’t mean that it is about you. It is rarely about you, always about themselves. What they see in you is what leads to your abandonment. Abandonment  is how you live any ending. Nothing else. When you feel abandoned, it is you abandoning yourself. Develop interest in your own life. What makes you not interested in your own life is the question regarding abandonment. You abandoned your life in the hands of somebody else by taking their ideas and ways of doing as your own..  Why don’t you make your life interesting from your own resources? What can you do to create that spark? Did you ever think to become the motor of your own life? Your focus has to change. A focus on yourself is in order See what you can do.

Not good enough.
Do you feel that you are not good enough? On what base do you say that you are not good enough? Can you really back it up? Do you have to overdo things in the expectation that you will be accepted, or approved. Even if you are approved and people say you did good, you will go over it, over and over again to make sure that you are above reproach. Even after everything you can’t see anything wrong. You still are worrying. It seems like you can never really feel that you are good enough even if you were approved by everybody. Maybe the only one who is responsible for this sentiment of not being good enough is you. How can you make a change? How can you give yourself a break? Where does it come from? No one is doing that to themselves knowingly. You have to take time to see why, and how this sentiment affected you or shall I say, infects you. Making your life a misery and you giving more than what you need. It is possible to free yourself from that ordeal.

1:1 Consultation // 120 mins. // $180 CAD
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